The Lies of Feminism
Why I’m not a Feminist
(or at least not that kind)
Feminism. What is it? To me, since I feel like I have a decent grasp with the English language, Feminism seems like it would be a movement about femininity and what it means to be a woman and do womanly activities.
Let’s break it down:
Feminine: having qualities or an appearance traditionally associated with women.
–ism is a suffix added to the end of a word to indicate that the word represents a specific practice, system, or philosophy. Often these practices, systems, or philosophies are political ideologies or artistic movements.
So… when you put it together, it is logical to assume that Feminism would be a practice or philosophy relating to the qualities of being a woman. And if this is the proper definition, then yes! I am a Feminist.
I love being a woman. I am proud to be a woman. I like to look like a woman, smell like a woman, do feminine activities, and fulfill my God given role of being a woman. Of course, not all women get married and have children. But in my case, that is what I will be discussing since I am married with children.
I would happily advocate for Feminism if it meant what the term would imply. I would encourage women to be good wives. To keep a nice home. Cook great food. Raise and educate children. And yes, even be a submissive wife. But that is a whole other conversation for another time (and it has nothing to do with being a doormat and having a man control you).
BUT
But according to Google, Feminism is the advocacy of women's rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes. And this concept has been taken too far. And somehow the Feminist movement has come to be centered around killing babies and women trying to act like men and take on the roles of men.
It is odd that Feminism is focused upon the equality of the sexes. We are equal. God made us equal. Men and women have the same power, rights, opportunities, etc. There might have been times and cultures where this is not the case, but let’s just focus on the here and now for the sake of simplifying this. “Women’s rights.” What does that even mean? As a woman, I am and have the same opportunity as men to be education. To drive a car. To vote. To buy a house. To choose to marry or to remain single. To pursue a career to be home to raise children. I have the right to do with my life what I would like. So we need to quit calling this Feminist movement a movement for women’s rights. We already have rights! And killing other people (babies) should not actually be a right. Let’s just call that what it is- baby’s rights (or lack thereof). Back to the focus… I digress.
Women are out there making money and living the American dream. People like to argue saying that women don’t make as much money as men working the same job. But in reality- this is almost never true! I can tell you as a college teacher- I make the same as men who teach at my level (same experience and same education). Male or female doesn’t matter. And that is actually unfair if you think about it. Women cost companies way more. For example, we take maternity leave. (Although now there’s a push for paternity leave, which would even this out a bit). Maternity leave means you can be away from work for usually 2 months... paid! Does this seem equal or fair?
Feminism has actually flipped this so called “equality” the other way. For example, women get hired over men in the fire department for “diversity.” What a joke! Can a woman emotionally and physically do the job? Yes. But they actually get different standards. Women are given more time for their physical agility test. And so how is that fair? When you need your car cut open to pull you out and save your life... or you need to be pulled out from your burning house, time doesn’t slow down because a woman is on the line. And let’s be honest- we would all rather a strong man come help us out than a woman. Just being real...
I firmly believe that God made us male and female. We are different. Complimentary. And even at odds. We are wired different. Built different physically. We relate to people differently. And it is a beautiful thing that should be embraced. Not blurred and shrugged off. Of course, there are those few men who might be more nurturing and those few women who are more analytical and less emotional… there are always exceptions. But, the idea is that God made us a certain way to help us fulfill the roles that He created for us. And there should be no shame in embracing this.
At one time I had believed the lies of Feminism and what our culture pushes. I was totally career focused and driven. I was busy making and selling art, traveling for my art, teaching college art… living the life. And no man was going to be telling me what to do! And no way did I want to have kids or just be a housewife. Nope! I had more “important” things to pursue! And what a sad lie I believed. And now, on the other side, I see so many women on the same path.
I am thankful to have had my eyes opened. I now gladly stay home to serve my family. I am doing what I believe to be the toughest job there is! I am chauffeur, cook, maid, teacher, organizer, etc. The mundane and seemingly trivial things are the most rewarding and important things out there! It is a high calling! It deserves the upmost respect and praise. It is wayyyyy easier to send your kids off for the day and go to work. I know. I have done it. But now, here I am. And nothing has been more fulfilling and rewarding!
Cleaning, doing laundry, wiping butts, grocery shopping, cooking, serving, playing outside with the kids, teaching, laughing, paying bills, taking kids here and there, scheduling activities, mending clothes, organizing, studying and researching…
Feminism has lied to us. Women feel the need to have a career and work.
Our world has looked down on stay at home moms for some time now. And it is devastating. Nothing is more important than building your home. And how can you do this when you aren’t home? Women are meant to be home for their families. That is TRUE Feminism – fulfilling our God given role.
Moms: this is your calling!
Are we worried about the things of the world or of God?
Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.
Galatians 1:10
You may be thinking: but I need to work. We need the money. But if you honor God’s calling to raise your children as we are instructed to do, He will honor and bless it. I am a testimony to that!
Drive an older car. Get a smaller house. Be home for your children. They need you! Nothing in this world is more important than raising up children to send out into the world. Your child’s soul is at stake here.
Check out Sheologians!
Their series on Feminism is awesome.
https://www.sheologians.com/feminism-poison-volume-1-remix/